Love

Today is the Holly Day of Love, another of the values I take on faith, although I think I can support this one with reason, math and testing. There is this fascinating little plot line running lately in The Good Wife. A character claims there are two kinds of people, one who will say “excuse … More Love

Truth

I haven’t been posting my usual Holly Days rants. Been a very weird year for me, but when this popped up on this Day of Truth, I thought to share. I once (decades ago while she was doing press junkets for Harold and Maude) heard Ruth Gordon say the key to living long and being … More Truth

Forgiveness

On this final day of our year we contemplate Forgiveness. My post yesterday was pretty meta, but this principle deserves more attention. I mentioned that I interpret the teachings of Jesus as rabbinic midrash. The radical forgiveness he advocated (how I wish the fundamentalists were holding up signs that read Matthew 5:44) of loving one’s … More Forgiveness

Holly Days of Awe

The last trinity of Holly Days starts on the eve of New Years Eve, with Atonement, then Forgiveness and Redemption. I like to add some of the traditions of The Days of Awe, like eating apples dipped in honey, and casting bread upon the waters, which for me is usually feeding the seagulls at the beach. … More Holly Days of Awe

Truth Love and Courage

Today is Love This third trinity has no traditional holiday like the other three, which are anchored by the Solstice, Christmas and New Years. I have three simple but comprehensive values that guide my life and that I am willing to accept on faith, so I made these the principals of this orphan trinity. The primary value is Truth. Having faith in the … More Truth Love and Courage

Gratitude

Today is Gratitude. Our Holly Days have been mostly derailed this year by Deena’s cancer. We finally managed to light our Menorah last night for the first time after our big Christmas/Generosity Feast. Today, thinking about this very scary detour we have taken, I was surprised to realize how lucky she has been in this. Cancer, The … More Gratitude

Generosity

Today is Generosity. One of the reasons I so love Holly Days, as most of my friends know, is that my Dad, who was an actor, enthusiastically played Santa every Christmas in exchange for presents from me and my sisters in the last years of his life. He was a wonderfully generous man, an excellent cook who … More Generosity

Hope

Today is Hope. Last year, I read Steven Pinker’s wonderful “The Better Angels of Our Nature”. That phrase was the closing of Lincoln’s first inaugural address. Ironic in how the demons of our natures opposed his plea and launched that miserable war of brother against brother, which in some ways we are still seeing waged … More Hope